Are your most basic needs being met? Do you even know what your most basic needs are? Everybody has the same 6 basic needs — things we need to survive and thrive in life. Read on to learn more, and to find out if your needs are being met.
Tony Robbins: 6 Basic Needs That Make Us Tick
I’ve seen it a million times–people can equate their net worth with their self-worth.
We’re all familiar with the cliche that money cannot buy happiness, but I’m convinced that almost everybody has to learn that lesson the hard way because let’s face it; the idea of having enough money to throw at your problems until they’re solved is a seductive impulse.
Whatever emotion you’re after, whatever vehicle you pursue—building a business, getting married, raising a family, traveling the world—whatever you think your nirvana is, there are six basic, universal needs that make us tick and drive all human behavior.
Combined, they are the force behind the crazy things (other) people do and the great things we do. 😉
We all have the same six needs, but how we value those needs and in what order, determines the direction of our life.
Need 1: Certainty/Comfort
The first human need is the need for Certainty. It’s our need to feel in control and to know what’s coming next so we can feel secure. It’s the need for basic comfort, the need to avoid pain and stress, and also to create pleasure.
Our need for certainty is a survival mechanism.
It affects how much risk we’re willing to take in life—in our jobs, in our investments, and in our relationships. The higher the need for certainty, the less risk you’ll be willing to take or emotionally bear.
We all need to feel secure in our lives. When we don’t feel security we are more easily stressed, we lose sleep and lose confidence in ourselves and our choices.
Need 2: Uncertainty/Variety
Let me ask you a question: Do you like surprises? If you answered “yes,” you’re kidding yourself! You like the surprises you want.
The ones you don’t want, you call problems!
But you still need them to put some muscle in your life. You can’t grow muscle—or character—unless you have something to push back against.
Need 3: Significance
We all need to feel important, special, unique, or needed. So how do some of us get significance?
You can get it by earning billions of dollars, or collecting academic degrees—distinguishing yourself with a master’s or a Ph.D.
You can get significance by having more or bigger problems than anybody else.
Spending a lot of money can make you feel significant, and so can spending very little. Some very wealthy people gain significance by hiding their wealth.
Where do you find your significance?
Need 4: Love & Connection
Love is the oxygen of life; it’s what we all want and need most. When we love completely we feel alive, but when we lose love, the pain is so great that most people settle on connection, the crumbs of love.
You can get that sense of connection or love through intimacy, or friendship, or prayer, or walking in nature. If nothing else works, you can get a dog.
These first four needs are what I call the needs of the personality.
The last two are the needs of the spirit. These are rarer—not everyone meets these. When these needs are met, we truly feel fulfilled.
Need 5: Growth
If you’re not growing, you’re dying.
If a relationship is not growing, if a business is not growing, if you’re not growing, it doesn’t matter how much money you have in the bank, how many friends you have, how many people love you—you’re not going to experience real fulfillment.
And the reason we grow, I believe, is so we have something of value to give.
Need 6: Contribution
Corny as it may sound, the secret to living is giving. Life’s not about me; it’s about we. Think about it, what’s the first thing you do when you get good or exciting news? You call somebody you love and share it. Sharing enhances everything you experience.
Life is really about creating meaning. And meaning does not come from what you get, it comes from what you give. Ultimately it’s not what you get that will make you happy long term, but rather who you become and what you contribute will.
The ultimate significance in life comes not from something external, but from something internal. It comes from a sense of esteem for ourselves, which is not something we can ever get from someone else.
People can tell you that you’re beautiful, smart, intelligent, the best, or they can tell you that you are the most horrible human being on earth—but what matters is what you think about yourself.
Whether or not you believe that deep inside you are continuing to grow and push yourself, to do and give more than was comfortable or you even thought possible.
The wealthiest person on earth is one who appreciates.
What needs can you see being met through your experiences online? How can you pass that experience on to others? What needs are met in your personal life, as well as your professional life?